Improve Any Situation

change or dieChange is constant. Every moment there is change, like it or not. This being the case, change might best be treasured. Yet, we often hesitate to embrace change, because it involves the unknown. In truth, there are grand opportunities in the unknown.

If the unknown holds great opportunity, what makes us resist change, and stay with what we know — sometimes, even when we want change? Our thinking is the culprit! Especially unconscious thought patterns, developed in childhood, as a result of listening to people we trusted. For example, if we heard something like this old adage: “I’d rather be safe than sorry,” it likely activated fear based patterning that resists change.

What can we do to about resistance? Take a conscious look at our thinking.

Thinking, simply stated, is something our brains do. Just as our hearts beat, our brains think, without our control. We obviously can focus our thoughts and direct them, and yet, when we take a break and relax our focus, our brains continue to generate thought. Like it or not, our brains think!

Improving any situation requires thought management, and for this, it’s important to understand, we are not our thoughts. Sounds silly, I know, but being clear on this point helps with activating change. So, although we are not our thoughts, we do identify with various thoughts, and this can make them seem more than mere thoughts. With thought identification, or maybe call it thought attachment, thoughts have the power make or break us, because in a very consistent fashion, this old adage is true: “What we think about, we bring about”.

What’s awesome and potentially liberating is that we can choose which thoughts to identify with. We literally can choose the thoughts we want, be they loving or fearful. This choosing is the foundation for activating change and improving any situation.

Let’s consider the idea of thinking as a gateway to two different ways of being: One is engaging, expansive, and loving. The other is withholding, constricting and fearful. At a basic level all of our thoughts are love or fear based. We perceive the world through our (judgment) filters, then interpret (yes, judge) our experiences. All perceptions and interpretations are loving and, or fearful. Often our filtering process is unconscious and goes unnoticed, while we’re busy doing other things. Whether conscious or unconscious, both love and fear effect our nervous system — our energy and well being. Being conscious of this helps with our ability to make choices and stick with them.

In a subtle way, we are expanding and or contracting in every moment, with a focus on love or fear based thoughts. To activate change and improve our situation, it’s helpful to notice and accept our thoughts, without judgment. Be curious about whether love and or fear is at play. Neither is right or wrong, they both exist to serve a purpose. But for activating change, go for the expansive thoughts! Be curious, ask questions and have fun exploring and expanding your path to create what you want.