Bounce & Stretch Your Way to Success

Resiliency: From Set Back to Bounce Back

 What do you get when you get what you don’t want?

Experience – ha, ha…

You can also get/develop something invaluable in helping you achieve your goals – resiliency.

Resiliency: the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. Etymology of resiliency – 1620s, “act of rebounding,” from Latin resiliens, present participle of resilire “to rebound, recoil,”

resilience-resilientPsychologically and emotionally, resiliency is the capacity to bounce back from stress and challenging situations. When it comes to life and moving toward goals and success, resiliency is the capacity to:

  • learn from our mistakes
  • not let things get us down and keep us down
  • keep moving forward even as we encounter setbacks

Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make someone resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback. Even after misfortune, resilient people are blessed with such an outlook that they are able to change course and soldier on. Read more»

What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. – Nietzsche

Much of the new evidence suggests that with a little practice, anyone can develop resilience, says Steven Southwick, 67, a professor of psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine. There are lots of ways to intervene so that stress or trauma doesn’t derail you, he says. No one size fits all. 

The most compelling new research about resilience focuses on mindfulness–an area in which most people would do well to improve, since people spend 47% of their days thinking about things other than what they’re actually doing, a 2010 Harvard study found. Read more»

When we run into setbacks it may be challenging to keep moving forward with our goals. Resilient people can stay focused on priorities and goals during challenging times. Stress and set-backs can’t keep resilient people from what’s important. Resiliency helps us to keep focused on the big-picture when things get tough. Challenging situations may tend to get us sidetracked and may lead us to negative, self-defeating thinking.

Good coaches help you to keep the big picture in the foreground.