Leadership Lessons from the Grave

The Gift of Failure

How would success and failure look from the grave? Would we still value the time we invested in financial success and fame? Would our failures still cause us angst or even still be considered failures. Will the definition of success remain the same or be seen as something entirely different from the grave?

Nurse Bronnie Ware wrote a memoir — The Top Five Regrets Of The Dying — about her experiences dealing with terminally ill or dying patients:

  1. Regret of not living a life true to themselves
  2. Regret of working too hard
  3. Regret of not having the courage to express feelings
  4. Regret of not staying in touch with friends
  5. Regret of not making themselves happier

These regrets are just this side of the grave. Will we carry them with us to the other side?

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. –  Steve Jobs

These 5 regrets may help us to redefine success in terms that are not so heavily dependent on fame and fortune. Perhaps one way of looking at these regrets is as failures, omissions or ignorance in our attempt to lead a life worth living.

Most advances I’ve made in my leadership skills are from seeing people around me fail.  – Brandi Temple, Founder of Lolly Wolly Doddle.

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