half-asked life

The Half-Asked Life

Drilling Down with Questions

Human beings are born curious – just sit next to any 3-year-old on a jet to Hawaii – Why? Why? Why? Those 3-year-olds – are they super smart or what? Rarely should we settle for the first, immediate and quite possibly easiest answer without a followup question.

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. – Albert Einstein

I remember a financial planner I met through networking. When he asked a client what their financial goals were, more often than not, they replied with something like – financial security, early retirement, or a million dollars in the bank. His next question – Why is that important to you? And the next question to their response – Why is that important to you? He’s drilling down to get below the intellectual ideas to the emotional bedrock the ideas and decisions are based on.

Why do we do what we do or want what we want? The quick answer is usually just the surface of something much deeper. Settling for rote, easy answers is living a half-asked life. Where can that lead us except to unfulfilled dreams and mediocrity?

Choosing to lead a life of more depth and understanding is rarely easy or comfortable – we need to get out of the box, leave the security blanket behind and enter the adult world where nothing is guaranteed.

I haven’t lived a perfect life. I have regrets. But that’s from a lifetime of taking chances, making decisions, and trying not to be frozen. The only thing that I can do with my regrets is understand them. – Kevin Costner

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